Inspirational Women Of The Month

Every month I will be interviewing women from around the world who are an inspirational to not only me but others.

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Isabel Palacios

This month I will be interviewing the gorgeous Isabel Palacios. I discovered her on Youtube a while back and fell in love with how wise and real she is. Whenever I feel un motivated or need a pep talk to myself, I watch her videos because she’s forever uplifting and real .

Lets get on to the interview:

1. How old are you?
*Drake voice* I’m 23 with a money tree.
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2. What inspires/motivates you?
My motivation and inspiration comes from the vision I have of my future and the constant competition I have with the past me. I am also greatly inspired by my travels and the desire to be so free that I can travel wherever I want, whenever I want.

 ”When people ask me what I do, I always struggle to answer the question. I don’t have a regular job, in fact I would describe myself as an entrepreneur.”

3.You speak a lot about LOA, how did you get into it?
As I stated before, I went through a lot of difficulty just a few years ago. I actually came across The Secret in a Youtube video’s comment section. I watched the movie on Netflix and it resonated with me so much that I decided to delve in deeper and learn more. I was able to manifest so many wonderful things at this time! I embodied it as best as I could in my everyday life in the beginning, but then I went through a very difficult time part way through college. Dealing with depression, anxiety, and a horrible turn of events left me very disinterested in positive thinking and I stopped believing in the Law of Attraction. Of course, since the Universe ALWAYS mirrors back what energy you give out, things just got progressively worse. It wasn’t until a little over year ago that I decided to stop letting the negativity have control over me and take control of my life again. I was no longer going to be a victim of these circumstances and I decided to get back into the Law of Attraction. I haven’t looked back since!
4.What is one advice you would give to your future self?
When the going gets rough, keep going. If you can survive what you went through in the past, you can survive anything!

”I realized that all these years I held the true power over my life and other things could not affect my mind unless I allowed them to.”

5.Do you have a favourite quote?
I’m obsessed with quotes! Just go through my Instagram; I usually post them or use them as captions in my pictures. My mantra however is “It’s all rigged; everything’s in your favor.” It’s in my Instagram bio to remind others and to mostly remind myself. I truly believe that whatever good or bad happens in your life, it always works out in your favor in the end.

                              ”They should embrace and cultivate these beautiful things.”

6.How do you get out of a funk/rut?
I have an entire video on my channel dedicated to getting out of a rut because it’s such an important topic. I believe changing something is key. Either changing your routine, rearranging your furniture, meditating, or dying your hair a new color are all ways to switch your mindset. It’s also important to take time to do something you LOVE and what will reignite your passion. Go for a massage, take a spontaneous trip, or just go for a run outside instead of the gym. I also love new books or watching an inspiring movie that will leave me with some kind of lesson. When you first get in a rut, it’s important to do your best to get out of it. One day you may wake up and realize you’ve been in a rut for 5 years. Don’t let it consume you.

”Upon discovering the Law of Attraction and what it means to truly grow and become the best version of yourself.”

7.Who are you most inspired by?
I’m honestly inspired by anyone that doesn’t fit societal standards, but decides to hustle hard for their dreams and visions instead. Just to name a few people that inspire me: Albert Einstein, Steve Jobs, Sophia Amoruso, Candice Neistat, Casey Neistat, and Gary Vaynerchuk. My big brother is probably my biggest inspiration, though.

”I just want all people to realize that they have their own kind of beauty, talents & attributes that are all working in their favour”

8.When was the last time you did something you were afraid of?
Traveling alone. A lot of things can go wrong. But you always have to trust in yourself and the Universe.
9.What is your favourite book?
Currently, I love “You Are A Badass” by Jen Sincero!
10.What is your ideal get away?
Honestly, any remote island far away from civilization and with unlimited fruits to eat!

 

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Isabel Palacios

Thank you Isabel for participating in the inspirational women of the month interview. Make sure to check her out!

Be Bold, Be Strong, Be you x

SELF LOVE CHALLENGE REVIEW

Can you believe it’s been 30 days since we started on the #30DaySelfLoveChallenge!

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I want to say a big THANK YOU to everyone who took part in the #30DaySelfLoveChallenge. It was so great to see women empowering each other and encouraging one another. I also want to add a big WELL DONE! for embracing your authentically divine self and expressing to yourself and the world what you love about yourself.

It was a great joy to see so many people join the challenge and below I will put a few pictures and captions of people who joined me on the challenge. I apologise if your picture is not there, it would of been a longggg post 🙂

Now if you missed the challenge, do not fear. You can embark on this journey any day of the year for 30 days. Here’s a link so you can read the rules >>#30 DAY SELF LOVE CHALLENGE

 

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Thank you again for joining the #30DaySelfLoveChallenge…It meant a lot to me 🙂

 

Be Bold, Be Strong, Be you x

When You Need A Lil Motivation

Other than reading blogs in my spare time, I also listen to a lot of podcasts mostly ones about well being. However, I wouldn’t mind  listening to a completely different genre as I am open to every and anything. But, today’s post is about the motivational podcasts I listen to and how they can change your mind to become the best version of yourself. I will also include the podcast that I particularly enjoy 🙂

*If you have any that you would like to share, please comment below!*

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1.The Lifestyle Coach School Podcast With Brooke Castillo

Brooke Castillo is one of those women who knows the right things to say. The content on her podcast are very informative and always get me thinking. Brooke speaks about situations we’ve all been through eg. anger, hurt and emotional manipulation and that’s why I prefer to listen to Brooke at night so I can unwind from a hectic day and fully commit my ears to every word she says.

Ep #104: The Process Of Change- https://thelifecoachschool.com/103/

Ep #144: Forgiveness- https://thelifecoachschool.com/144/

Ep #119: Emotional Manipulation- https://thelifecoachschool.com/119/

Available in iOS app store

 

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2.Happier with Gretchen Rubin

The title is literally self explanatory. I tend to listen to Gretchen in the day and it always starts my day positively. If you want quick inspirational podcasts she delivers 2 minute mini podcast, which I love when I’m in a hurry and need a quick motivational pick me up. Gretchen and her sister are always uplifting and full of joy whether their on air, which lifts my spirits up as well.

You Don’t Have To Be Good At Something To Be Good At Something: http://gretchenrubin.com/happiness_project/2016/10/little-happier-good-at-something/

Accept Myself, And Except More From Myself: http://gretchenrubin.com/happiness_project/2016/05/little-happier-accept/

Podcast 76: Write Your Manifesto: http://gretchenrubin.com/happiness_project/2016/08/podcast-76/

Available in iOS app store

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3.Zen for everyday life with Matt Valentines

I recommend listening to Matt first thing in the morning before you get out of bed. His soothing calm voice brings peace to you in the morning before your mind starts overthinking. His podcast tends to be for the morning however, you can play his podcast at anytime.

Ep #33 Guided Meditation: Mindful Eating- https://buddhaimonia.com/podcast/zen-for-everyday-life/zfel33-guided-meditation-mindful-eating

Ep #30 11 Things To Know When You’re Having A Bad Day-  https://buddhaimonia.com/podcast/zen-for-everyday-life/zfel30

Ep #17 Guided Meditation- Loving-Kindness Meditation- https://buddhaimonia.com/podcast/zen-for-everyday-life/zfel17-loving-kindness-meditation

Available in iOS app store

Be Bold, Be Strong, Be you x

Believe In Yourself, You Are Doing Great

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Ever had that annoying pessimistic voice telling you ‘you can’t do it’, ‘why try you’re going to fail anyway’ or ‘ you’re not smart enough’. That’s voice I call the hater, the voice that always has something negative to say but never praises you for the hard work you do everyday. Then we enter the world of non self-trust where we make decisions based on others opinion for validation. And then it starts to become a spiral of self doubt and not believing in yourself.

However, I am here to tell you not to listen to that voice and show it who’s boss.

In this post I have written down ways to start believing in yourself. Some you already do aimlessly while others require a bit of a push from yourself. Yes, it’s hard sometimes but with the power of your words, the thoughts that you create affect your emotions.. Change your thoughts and watch you blossom!

1.Celebrate your accomplishments 

Even if it’s getting out of bed. You should be proud of the past and present accomplishments, you are brilliant.

2.Stop asking for validation of yourself from other people

No-one know the ins and out of what makes you unique beside yourself. Every decision you make is from a self trust point of view, you trust yourself massively in order to exert that decision so why seek validation from other people to back up what you already know.

Now I am not saying don’t ever ask advice from others but know when to take your own advice

3.Take past experiences as growth

Don’t beat yourself up for past experiences. Growth is a way of knowing what works and what doesn’t and applying them to future experiences.

4.Think of the positive outcomes when you believe

Visualising the successes of your dream life is great when you believe yourself. Focus on the positive rather than the negative

5.Don’t let fear stop you

Fear is a little bitch…DON’T LET IT STOP YOU!!

REMEMBER YOU ARE INCREDIBLE. ALWAYS BELIEVE IN YOURSELF!

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How To Deal With Anxiety


This blog post has been highly requested and I thought I’ll write about how I manage my anxiety. Yes, it will be long as I want to share the knowledge that I know but, I also want you to go back thinking you’ve learnt a lot and that next time this feeling happens you can deal with it.

So get a cup a tea or your preferable drink and lets dive in!

Anxiety is the most common mental health disorder within young people and I am one of them *GASP*.  People tend to say to me ‘’ You’re so daring and confident, how come you have anxiety’’ or I get ‘’ But you have a blog, doesn’t that mean you’re cured’’ Ha! I wish It was that simple but its not. Over the past years I have learnt to manage my anxiety and panic attacks when their occur. It took a lot of determination and challenges but I can say I have seen a significant difference.

I am going to get a bit technical now, but this is how you can truly understand what is happening within your body.

What is the Amygdala?

According to Oxford dictionaries Amygdala means:

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Now I don’t know about you but that definition went straight over my head. However, I am here to give you a simple definition so you don’t finish reading this post thinking WTF.

The Amygdala is an almond shaped part in your brain. Amygdala is the reason why we have fear, it controls how we react to certain events that we find fearful and non-fearful. When we detect danger it is due to our stressors convincing our Amygdala that we are in total danger and need to get out of the situation. When we’re in a situation our bodies react in different ways e.g.. Shallow breathing, Sweaty Palms, Hyperventilating ect.   When we get out of the danger the Amygdala says ‘’I was right about that particular danger, lets avoid that thought/event FOREVER’’.  And thats how we have fear!

Fear can not be ‘erased’ or ‘cured’ but it can be managed. I will discuss some of the advice I was told and I will also discuss some of the suggestions I’ve researched.

1.Sit With The Fear

When a professional recommended this tip to me, I thought he was chatting shit and he didn’t know how anxiety feels. But once I tried it out I realised that he was on to something. I don’t know for most people but I tend to run away from a situation when my anxiety rises but if you sit with the fear you’re rivalling with the amygdala and standing up to it. Which in terms counteracts it ( You see where I’m going with this).

2.Acknowledge, Accept, Await

This ties in to the first advice,.

Acknowledge: Acknowledge that you are feeling a certain way which may lead you to a panic attack

Accept: Accept this feeling but do not overthink the feeling or give it the power to affect you physically and mentally

Await: Know that the feelings is not going to last. The feeling will only last max 5 minutes but we convince ourselves its happening for longer. When we await for the feeling to pass our brain starts to give a little cheer.

3.Breathe

Taking slow deep breaths slows down the brain and gives you more clarity in what to do next.

4.Positive Affirmations

Telling yourself that this is going to be okay.

This feeling is not going to last.

My disorder is not going to get the best of me.

Telling yourself these positive affirmations change the thoughts within your brain and replaces the negative thoughts/emotions with positive ones.

5. Mindfulness 

A great app that I adore is insight timer, this app has a various of meditation talks, podcasts and music to help you feel calm and reflect on the things that are happening around you.

6.Seek A Professional

If this affects your day to day living and you’ve tried every tip under the sun…including these ones…My suggestion is to seek professional advice. There are a number of services that will help for example Cognitive Behavioural Therapy ( CBT), Counselling ect.

Why not join a chat rooms like Pacifica (located in the app store) where you can share your worries with people around the world and seek advice from people who have been able to manage dealing with the feelings.

Feel free to email me at thegroundedtree@outlook.com for more advice or to simply have a chat.

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Be Bold, Be Strong, Be you x

 

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February Monthly Goals

Finally!!  January has ended, felt like it dragged on for ages. We can now say Goodbye January and Welcome February into our life. Lets make sure this month is filled with adventure, inspiration and happiness.  In my previous post I mentioned a suggestion about doing daily/weekly goals  The Ultimate Cheat Sheet On Stress (click link) .  However, I do know it can get a bit much when tracking new goals to accomplish everyday or every week, so I’m here to talk about Monthly Goals. This is for the people who find the daily/weekly goals overwhelming, starting with monthly goals and slowly incorporating it into your lifestyle will be super beneficial.

I am a total freak when it comes to to-do lists and all that shenanigans so I have different goals lists from everyday to monthly goals.

To keep you inspired I am going to share my monthly goals with you as you will be able to get to know me more and I hope it challenges you to create one.

Every end of the month I will review how well I have kept to my goals ( and I definitely won’t hide it)

February Monthly Goals

  • Use technology less ( as I am always glued to my phone)
  • Make free time to spend with loved one ( I am the worst when it comes to making plans)
  • Keep up with the exercise

Share your monthly goals in the comments below, I would love to see them. 

Be Bold, Be Strong, Be you x

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How To Set Goals & Smash Them

How to set goals & smash them

The typical new years goals usually goes like this. We make a long list of stuff we are going to change (mainly weight loss or stop smoking), say we are going to smash them and a couple of months later, someone will ask us about our goals and we always end up saying ‘’ oh that! I couldn’t keep up with it’’ or ‘’ I am too busy’’.  We make the same excuses every year and then we wonder why everyones enjoying themselves and your still wishing to be the ‘perfect’ size.

Enough is enough! I am here to kick you up the butt and give you some encouraging tips for you to smash your goals. You don’t have to apply all of theses, you can start with one and work your way through. Like Samuel Johnson said ‘’ Great works are performed not by strength but by perseverance’’. So don’t be disheartened if you cave in or totally forget and think you can’t do it again, as long as you preserve you can’t go wrong.

5 tips to smash your goals:

1. Stick it around the room

Write your goals down and stick it anywhere in the room, this is an effective way to see your goals in the morning or evening in places where you wouldn’t normally see it.  I personally find this method effective, I usually write it in my notes on my phone as I typically look at my phone every minute of the day (who doesn’t) ,this helped me to smash my 2016 goals and I’m ready to implement it in 2017 and the year after and the year after that. Why not give it a try?

2. Goals Affirmations

Repeating your goals to yourself when you wake up and before you go to bed. Keeping your goals fresh in your mind keeps your brain on a memory cycle where you will never forget your goals.

3. Tell a close relative or friend

When you tell someone your goals you’re effectively putting it out into the universe. A close relative or friend can support you in your yearly goals. Maybe have an exchange with them and promise to keep a monthly check up between you two so that you both can keep on track.

4. Visualise it

Visualise yourself achieving the goals, how does it make you feel?. When you visualise your goals you steer your mind in the direction of happiness and achievement.

5. Believe in yourself

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Be Bold, Be Strong, Be you x

 

How To Let Go Of The Past

We’ve all had those moments where we are alone and get thinking about the what if’s,  what if I was still in that job, what if I was still with my ex. Although it is ok to think about the past it is not ok to dwell over it and try change the present to replicate the past.

I am going to talk about some ways I overcame thinking about the past and how to let it go so it can lead me to the fabulous present time,  but don’t get me wrong I do think about the past but I have learnt ways to challenge it into a positive thought.

If you have guess I am an over thinker, I think myself into sad state ( I’m sure I’m not the only one) and then I get annoyed with myself because I have thought myself into a bad mood (typical). Sometimes I used to be sad for several days because I was overthinking, I felt restless, I couldn’t sleep, I would hide from all the people who cared about me. It got to the point I was even sick of it and enough was enough I need to kick my butt in the right direction.

I am not saying that you take on board theses tips and bam you are ‘cured’, it takes time and patiences. Don’t feel disheartened if suddenly you fall off the tracks, its about how you recover from it which matters.

Tips on letting go:

1. Create a thankful list

Create a list of what your thankful for in this present moment, it can be small like I am thankful for my dog or it can be on a greater scale I am thankful for being able to have a meal without complications. Once you have a list of what your thankful for,sit down and meditate over the list. Look at all the reasons you should be happy and thankful in this present day.

2. Have a time frame

Instead of letting your thoughts ruminate throughout the day try having a designated time where you can only be sad for a short period of time and then once the timer bleeps, that it. Those thoughts are left in the past.

3. Journaling 

I am a big believer in journaling, not only is it great to get your thoughts out on paper but once your done you can throw the paper in the bin or you can close the notebook and never look back. Find a nice quiet space, put some relaxing tunes on and get writing, anything that comes to your mind, no matter how random it is, write it down.

4. Forgive them

This is one of the hardest things I had to do but the most rewarding out of them all.  Forgive the person who has hurt you, you don’t have to converse with them your thoughts but this is for your sake in order for you to grow and learn that the energy your ruminating in your mind does not affect them but affects you, it causes more harm to you than anything. Once you have forgiven them you can go on with life radiating that perfect badass glow you got going on and invite positive vibes into your life.

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Be Bold, Be Strong, Be you x

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Top Tips To Overcome Feeling Sad

Lately I have been a bit distant on writing on the blog because truth be told, I haven’t been feeling my usual self. I simply thought how can I advise people on something I can’t even help myself. I took some time out for myself and felt better because I did a few of these steps to get me back into my normal state of mind.

 

This is how you kick those feelings in the butt:

Exercise- Getting out of bed can be one of the hardest things to do when you feel like sh*t but even doing a few stretches or a bit of cardio can boost your mood. When you exercise you release a hormone called Serotonin which boost up your mood.

Get some fresh air- This can be from taking a long walk to sitting in the park. Getting some fresh air opens you out from your confined space and makes you feel relaxed in an open space.

Read- Whenever I feel in a rut I always read as it distracts me from what my mind is actually thinking and I end up forgetting what I was feeling.

Meditate- Just doing a 10 minutes body scan can be all what you need to feel at ease.

Listen to your favourite song– Turn the speakers up and dance around to your favourite tune. Pretend you’re in a music video or dancing in front of your friends.

Healthy Eating (Fruits)- I have to put my hand up to this one, I am terrible when it comes to eating healthy ( those damn pizzas) but even starting small  by having a simple banana or fruit salad, can point you in the right direction.

Journaling– Writing down everything that comes to your mind is the best way to reflect on how you feel as its all written down in front of you. This is a great way to filter out what is the cause of your mood and it also brings out some hidden emotions you never consciously realised.

 

Thank you for reading and always remember

Be Bold, Be Strong, Be you x