Accepting & Acknowledging Emotions

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I am the epitome of blocking out memories or emotions which have caused me distressed. I’ll rather distract my mind on something new and positive rather than dwelling in the past.

Can anyone relate?

I felt like I was doing the right thing. As soon as the old memory floated to the front of my brain, it would be suppressed down so hard, it drowned and never came back up again for the rest of the day. But, I realised the more you try to suppress it, the more it floats up and cause more damage in my head.

What I needed to do was to accept and acknowledge my past memories & emotions and know that I don’t have to engulf myself in these difficult emotion. I can simply just show it gratitude and move on. 

It’s definitely easier said than done but with a lot of practise and patience when it comes to shifting the mindset, soon enough you’ll be accepting every emotion and not dwelling on it.

Below are a few steps to take to help you grow through past emotions:

1.Identify- Identify the problem. Is it a memory stemmed from your childhood? or When the emotion rises up, does it affect anyone else? 

2. Acknowledge- Acknowledge that there is an underline memory/emotion that is suppressed in your subconcious/conscious, that won’t leave.

3.Gratitude- Thank yourself for identifying these emotions but know, they no longer require a space in your brain.  An example of this is-  Thank you for identifying the suppressed emotion I tried to bury but I no longer in that mindset anymore & I can acknowledge this emotion without overthinking it.” 

4.Accept- Accept the emotion for what it is while showing unconditional gratitude for it

5.Let Go- After the process, let it go. You are no longer anchored to that thought. It is time now to let it go and growth from this experience

”Don’t look back, keep your eyes forwards”

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Be Bold, Be Strong, Be You X

 

How To Declutter Your Mind

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Our mind tends to collect a lot of information from the littlest things such as reading a poster on the street to the more extreme information that affects us deeply. And trying to juggle all that information from personal to work information can be overwhelming. It gets so bad that we can often end up in a terrible self loathing mood and can affect us physically and mentally

Fun fact: Did you know that the amount of information we store in our head is limitless.

Which means that we can store a lot of information in our head. This is why it is required to declutter our minds once in a while, so we can have a clear open mind to receive new information that we want to recieve.

Fun Fact: Did you know your physical space, affects your mental space.

So if your space is filled with junk and items piling up every where you look, its more than likely your head is filled with the same overwhelmed sensation of feeling cluttered.

I’m here to share a few tips on how to declutter your mind.

Tips

1. Write it down- Express what’s on your mind, this can take form of writing in a journal, making a list of stuff you need to do or if your more of the creative type, why not try and draw what’s on your mind.

2. Breathe– The use of our breath is so magnificent we tend to not give a lot of credit to it. A method that helps me, is to breathe in and visualise all the thoughts that have been causing me stress rise up until it can not go any further and then on the out breath, releasing any information that doesn’t cause me positivity, growth or doesn’t support me in any way. Continue to inhale and exhale for about 3 sessions and I guarantee after that last breath, you’ll feel lighter and your head will be clearer.

3. Declutter your physical space– Like I said before your physical space reflects your mental space, if the physical space is too cluttered it means its time to clean up. Tidying up can be very boring and tedious so why not try putting on some music on or light a scented candle to make you feel good.

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Be Bold, Be Strong, Be You X

NEWS UPDATE

I’ve got some news I want to celebrate with you all!!

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But, first of all I want to say a huge thank you to YOU! , yes you 🙂

If it wasn’t for all your lovely comments and inspiration, I wouldn’t be blogging as confidently as I am today . Thank you for reading my blog, I am so thankful for you.

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Now that the mushy bits out of the way. Lets crack on!!

GOOD NEWS NO.1:

It’s was an honour to have my first ever article publish via Consumer Health Digest. Initially, I was overwhelmed by the experience as I started to have many doubts. I kept wondering what to write? will my content be good? Will they reject my article after they read it? But, those fears didn’t stop me from reaching the ultimate goal and I’m proud to say that it’s up and I’m so happy with the result and honestly pinched myself because I didn’t believe it.

Click the Link to see my article here 🙂

 

GOOD NEWS NO.2:

This blog has been received very well from people all around the world, the positive achievements that you all share with me is inspiring and amazing and I love speaking to each and everyone of you. I had an idea that just would not leave my head no matter what, so with a lot of thought and planning…*drum roll*…. I have created us a space where we can uplift, empower and share advice and tips with one another in safe community where theres no judgement but pure love and supporting vibes.

Does this sound like you. Come join The Grounded Tree Blossoms group ( Once your in, you’ll find out why I called the group blossoms)

 

Be Bold, Be Strong, Be you x

I Am Not Happy 24/7

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News alert: I am not happy 24/7!!

Let me repeat myself….I am not happy 24/7. I think people except positive people to be positive all the time. Most people think that if they do have a cry or get angry it’s a sign of weakness. Truth is, positive people do have negative thoughts, we just try to not let our thoughts consume us but at times it’s inevitable. After all we are human.
We are allowed to feel upset, we are allowed to cry and we are definitely allowed to be angry. Personally, I think crying is therapeutic, just having a really long cry always releases old or unsurfaced emotions that I didn’t know was there.

So next time you feel like you have to put a brave face on, just remember you are human! You are allowed to be upset and accept the support from your friends and family when in need of help. Don’t suffer in silence.

That’s it for now until next time…

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Stepping Out Of Your Comfort Zone

“I’m content with my little bubble, I don’t want to come out”. I hear the words constantly come out my mouth.

I used to say this for months and no matter how much my friends tried to persuade me  to step out, I would retreat back into my bubble. The excuses I used to make were silly but truthfully, the reason why I didn’t want to step out was because I was scared. Scared of change and scared of failing. I was scared to step out of my comfort zone because I knew the less risks I took, the more happy I would be ( so I thought).  This didn’t just happen in my personal life but my work and social life too.

Until one day I started to realise by living in the comfort zone, life was passing me by. I didn’t want to be stuck living this mundane life, I wanted to achieve my goals but one thing that kept pulling me back was, the risk of failing.

I remember hearing the quote ‘’ Nothing comes from sitting in the comfort zone’’ and it made me wonder about the reality I was in.

In order to grow you need to step out your comfort bubble and explore what the worlds has to offer. Even if what you do doesn’t work the first time, don’t retreat back in, take it again and face it at full value.

The job you want to apply for but you secretly think you don’t have the ‘right’ experience….Do it!!

That person you want to strike up a conversation with but you’re too shy…Do it!!

I want to share with you some tips that have helped me get out the comfort zone.

Tips:

  • New Day- Do something different everyday! Even if its walking down the opposite side of the read.
  • Try Again- Like aaliyah the singer said ‘’ If at first you don’t succeed, dust yourself off and try again’’. There is nothing wrong with not succeeding the first time, it just means you have to come back 10 times harder.
  • Trust- Trust and have faith that you are going in the right direction. Everything happens for a reason. Which brings me on to my next point.
  • Patience- Be patient with yourself, this is not going to happen over night but once you get into a conscious routine of shifting the mindset, it will change.
  • Journaling- Write down everything you have done differently big and small. Come back to it in a week and remind yourself of how many things you’ve achieved in a week.

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Be Bold, Be Strong, Be you x