If you’re a people pleaser I have some bad news for you…..not everyone is going to like you. However, the good news is…You don’t need to care!
I’ve been there before, I know you have and there’s going to be many more times where you want to impress someone but they are not reflecting the same effort you’re giving out. Our brains are a bit fucked, in terms of when we want to impress someone we over analyse a situation and try to over compensate the person the person we’re truly are.
Recently, I had an epiphany moment where I realised I don’t need to impress anyone but myself. Not everyone is going to agree with me, not everyone is going to like me and I’m fine with that. The people who are meant to be here are already here for this journey in my life. I shouldn’t have to hide my personality in order to fit in, I should unapologetically be my authentic self!!
Lets go on a journey to becoming your authentic self:
- Stop overthinking
Overthinking is the biggest problem when trying to be your authentic self. Anything you tend to do will make you over think but, if you turn that negative voice into something positive, you’ll start to quieten down that negative voice.
- Stop seeking validation from others
Seeking validation from others will only end up in a spiral of you questioning yourself. If anyone is trying to change you into something you’re not, leave that relationship. They should love you whole-heartedly. The only person that can define you is yourself!!
- Embrace your uniqueness
You know that unique laugh you have, embrace it! laugh from the belly, scream from the roof tops. The quirkiness you have is the best thing about you, embrace it. We love it!!!
- One thing at a time
Do something everyday that you can be proud of, even if it’s just walking for 10 minutes
- Let go
Let go of the negativity and the past. It’s called the past for the reason. A lovely quote I discovered is ” If you are depressed, you are living in the past. If you are anxious, you are living in the future. If you are at peace, you are living in the present”. This is so true because it ties back into being your authentic self.
Be Bold, Be Strong, Be you x