Often the definition of self love defines itself as individually doing an activity that brings the best feeling out of yourself or being in a positive frame of mind masked in happiness and love. However, when discussing self-love I don’t hear about the process of how hard it can be and the acknowledgement of the discomfort of what self love really means.
The self love where you identify where you’re going wrong and what you are going to do in order to change it. Self love is not just about taking a bubble bath or having a marathon on Netflix, its also about taking accountability for the actions you portray to yourself and others. Don’t get me wrong, we all love a bubble bath and a series binge on Netflix and it does make us feel happy but, there’s another side to the coin. I often wonder why people never talk about the process and my conclusion is that they don’t want to become vulnerable to themselves. Vulnerability is courage and for you to identify your mishaps, you are learning the core values of what self love means by acknowledging the areas where you’ve gone wrong and shifting that energy into a positive light. Once that shift in acknowledgement happens, that when the real light starts to shine within you.
It’s an uncomfortable process, I know I’ve been there many times where I’ve had to acknowledge my wronging but, through that process I have learnt to not let myself be consumed in that negative vibe and take full accountability for my actions. Think of a plant, in order for it to blossom they need to shred a few dead leaves for them to flourish. This goes for you! Without the shredding of things that are hindering you, you will never grow and find a deeper understanding of self love. I hope this make sense.
So. What can I do, I hear you say.
The first and biggest thing you can do is identify where things are not as good as it can be.
- Pick an area in your life whether its relationships, work or personal ( something to do with you and only you) and start to write down what the biggest problem is.
- Once you’ve identified the problem ask yourself if you have taken full accountability for this action. If the answer is no, spend some time thinking about what can do to change this.
- Through the self identifying stage start to think and write down how you can take it forward in correcting your actions.
- Actions speak louder than words. It’s all well and good writing these down but the fundamentally change in this behaviour is action.
This is very complex and a lot of work; if you fall back into your old habits, don’t be disheartened. It takes being vulnerable to evoke courage and change.
If you would like to see a part 2 on self love, please let me know!
Stay Grounded X