How To Spot A Toxic Relationship


Ever had someone who puts you down, controls you, competes with you or makes you feel like your the ‘bully’? If you answer Yes to any of them. You have a toxic individual in your life who needs to be removed.

I’ve had many friends who I simply had to remove out of my life due to them affecting my energy and not supporting my growth. I’ve had people ask me do I miss my old friends and my answer is always NO and I’ll tell you the reason why…Since they’ve been gone a weight has been lifted off my shoulders, I feel truly happy and at peace that I don’t have to dodge them or make any excuses to not see them. I realised that they were affecting my happiness and they needed to go!!

Whether friend, family or significant other, if that person is hindering your growth, they do not deserve to be in your life. Surround yourself with like minded people who genuinely celebrate your growth and achievements, not people who are manipulative or who only celebrates about them and not acknowledge your feelings.

How to spot a toxic person:

  1. They constantly put you down
  2. Never honest
  3. Competes with you in everything ( even if its minor)
  4. Selfish- It’s always their way or no way
  5. Everyday drama!
  6. You dread seeing/talking to them
  7. Always plays the victim

Once you have spotted who’s toxic around you. Its your decision to learn how to remove that toxic energy from your life

I understand that you can’t remove people out of your life just like that, so I suggest that you talk to them beforehand and explain your concerns and if they don’t change or keep up the consistency, then its up to you whether you want to keep this toxic relationship going or put an end to it.

How to remove toxicity out of your life: 

  1. Put yourself first
  2. Re-evalaute your relationship with that person
  3. Delete the person of all social media accounts
  4. Surround yourself with like minded people
  5. Understand that this is a blessing and that this relationship is not a reflection of you as a person
  6. Journaling- Write down your feelings towards that person and then let it go. Some examples are, throwing it away, burn it, hide it or release it in some form


Be Bold, Be Strong, Be you x

4 thoughts on “How To Spot A Toxic Relationship”

  1. This was actually a really nice read. Unfortunately, I answered ‘yes’ to all of these, about my sister. It’s not easy to remove yourself from a family member, especially if you live with them, but I’m glad you’re spreading awareness on how to do so! Not everyone is so quick to spot when a person is no good for them, and they can get wrapped up in all the drama. I’m glad I was finally able to! Thank you for this,

    -Alicia. xx | Lifestyle & Advice

    1. I am glad you enjoyed this post. Yes, it’s hard to deal with a family member especially if you live with them, I think best thing to do is be honest with that individual & if that doesn’t work out, love them from a distance. You can co-exist with them but when issues arise try to let it go over your head. As it’s a reflection of
      their insecurities/ themselves, not yours 💖

  2. This is a great read. Not only is it good to remove those type of ppl around you, it’s also good to make sure that you do not become that type of person.

    Shannon //

  3. I’m glad I read your blog. I agree with everything you mentioned on this article. It’s sad when the toxic person is someone who you love or used to get along with. But, you really cannot let them infect you with their negativity so “loving from a distance” is a good advice. Thanks for the good read!

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