We’ve all had those moments where we are alone and get thinking about the what if’s, what if I was still in that job, what if I was still with my ex. Although it is ok to think about the past it is not ok to dwell over it and try change the present to replicate the past.
I am going to talk about some ways I overcame thinking about the past and how to let it go so it can lead me to the fabulous present time, but don’t get me wrong I do think about the past but I have learnt ways to challenge it into a positive thought.
If you have guess I am an over thinker, I think myself into sad state ( I’m sure I’m not the only one) and then I get annoyed with myself because I have thought myself into a bad mood (typical). Sometimes I used to be sad for several days because I was overthinking, I felt restless, I couldn’t sleep, I would hide from all the people who cared about me. It got to the point I was even sick of it and enough was enough I need to kick my butt in the right direction.
I am not saying that you take on board theses tips and bam you are ‘cured’, it takes time and patiences. Don’t feel disheartened if suddenly you fall off the tracks, its about how you recover from it which matters.
Tips on letting go:
1. Create a thankful list
Create a list of what your thankful for in this present moment, it can be small like I am thankful for my dog or it can be on a greater scale I am thankful for being able to have a meal without complications. Once you have a list of what your thankful for,sit down and meditate over the list. Look at all the reasons you should be happy and thankful in this present day.
2. Have a time frame
Instead of letting your thoughts ruminate throughout the day try having a designated time where you can only be sad for a short period of time and then once the timer bleeps, that it. Those thoughts are left in the past.
I am a big believer in journaling, not only is it great to get your thoughts out on paper but once your done you can throw the paper in the bin or you can close the notebook and never look back. Find a nice quiet space, put some relaxing tunes on and get writing, anything that comes to your mind, no matter how random it is, write it down.
4. Forgive them
This is one of the hardest things I had to do but the most rewarding out of them all. Forgive the person who has hurt you, you don’t have to converse with them your thoughts but this is for your sake in order for you to grow and learn that the energy your ruminating in your mind does not affect them but affects you, it causes more harm to you than anything. Once you have forgiven them you can go on with life radiating that perfect badass glow you got going on and invite positive vibes into your life.
Be Bold, Be Strong, Be you x